Spotting abusive men dating
Is he planning on having children on your first date?Does he immediately cast you in the role of the love of his life?
And if you're someone like me who's too trusting, having some knowledge beforehand of dating red flags can save you tons of disappointment in the future.Even if they've been trying super hard to be sweet to you, but then they go into full-on ass mode when talking to your server, you should not be fooled.Good people don't treat others like they're less than or undeserving of respect. I have a friend who went on a date with a super hot person, and on the date, this person actually laid out a list of expectations, like "must always wear mascara" and "keeps her nails and hair done and her body hair-free." Excuse me? This does not sound like a person who is interested in loving you as you grow old, ugly cry, vomit with the flu, or, you know, just don't freaking have time to get into super model mode to lounge around the house. Or does he keep blaming you, the cab driver, the waiter, the weather, the government, or fortune for his predicament?
Is his language vile and infused with expletives, threats, and hostility? Does he push you to marry him having dated you only twice?
Sure, it could just be some ADHD or a hatred for waiting in lines, but it could also mean that your date is used to, and expects, having things their way.